Why Those First Date Questions Creep You Out And How To Deal With Them!
"Oh no! My date just asked those dreaded first date questions'! I might as well scratch this date off!" Not so fast!
Yes we can't avoid those dreaded questions (with a capital 'D') when we're on our first date but that doesn't mean that you have to put up with them anymore!
In fact, once you're finished reading you will know exactly how to deal with them in a way that will both impress your date and make him/her want to know more of the real you!
No one likes being judged but once you're good at answering these questions by getting good at:
- Having funny replies
- Telling short and intriguing stories
- Selling yourself WITHOUT showing off you won't be worried anymore!
You see, first date questions are predictable and once you practice answering them in this new light, you'll actually welcome them!
Tip #1 - Get Good at Responding Back With Humor!
Yes, your date is asking those questions to slot you. Your date wants to know where you stand on that invisible 'social pole'.
No one likes being 'slotted' and that's why we try to avoid the unavoidable first date questions in the first place. Well, worry no more!
Thankfully we don't have to answer directly. We can answer indirectly by showing our personality and sense of humor instead! So let's get you finding funny comebacks!
STEP 1: What are the typical first date questions you get? Find them and write them down! Are you finished? Great! ;-)
Now think of some funny comebacks for each one that make you laugh. You see, if you genuinely think that your comeback is funny then your date will probably too! Here are some funny comebacks:
Question "What do you do for a living?"
Answer with: I work. or I'm a commercial superhero. ;-)
Question "How old are you?
Answer with: 99 years old. or don't worry, I'm legal. ;-)
Again it has to be what you think is funny! If you're not laughing, they won't.
Note: 'Funny' is NOT the same as 'creepy' or 'weird'. I don't recommend making jokes about being a professional rapist or a pedophile. Not only will that not be funny but it might make your date seriously reconsider (I know I would!)
Tip #2 - Get Good At Answering With Intriguing Short Stories!
Eventually your date will want to know the answers to the first date questions. If you evade them for too long you'll come across as weird (not good believe me!) ;-)
I recommend getting god at having little stories as answers to the questions as well.
Step 2: Find some interesting things that you think are interesting about you!
Once you did that look at how you can introduce those things in your answers to those first date questions.
Here is a personal example! When I was a kid I lived in Europe and I think that's interesting about me. So when my date asks: "What are your hobbies?"
I'd answer with - When I was a kid I lived in Europe so nowadays I like learning languages. Ever been to Europe?
That way I've added additional information about me that my date could find interesting and start asking genuinely good questions on a first date! ;-)
I've also deflected the questioning with 'Ever been to Europe?' which gets my date a chance to talk about herself (and deflect that next first date question!) ;-)
Tip #3 - Show off Without Showing off!
You can avoid coming across as showing off if you make sure that you mention interesting facts about yourself indirectly.
So for example I wouldn't tell my date anything like "I lived in Europe. Did you?"
I'd also recommend adding some vulnerability. Whenever you find yourself telling interesting things about yourself and you add something vulnerable about yourself you'll get points AND make the first date more personable!
Another Personal Example!
If you're like me and have travelled more than the average person and I had to tell my date about my travels I'd say things like:
"Yes I travelled a lot but I get the worst cases of jet lag."
or
"Well, I own my own business but I'm terrible with money!"
or
"Yes, I exercise everyday but that's because I love ice cream so much."
What that does is make you come across as human. Ultimately that's what your date (and you) want to be with - someone who's a human being like yourself!
Little Bonus On How to Handle Those Questions For a First Date!
When it comes to handling that first date I recommend keeping one thing in mind: Your date will mirror your mood. "What do you mean?"
So let's say you are feeling nervous - then your date will feel nervous too! On the other hand if you're calm and relaxed then chances are that your date will feel the same way.
Quick tip! If you handle the barrage of questions while being calm and comfortable in your own skin, you'll make a better impression!
When your date is asking those questions - be sure to keep breathing! ;-)
Final Thoughts On Questions For a First Date!
Yes our date asks those first date questions to slot us. We don't like feeling judged or slotted (especially if it 'seemingly' doesn't look like it's in our favor.)
On the other hand if you can show your funny side, while dazzling your date with an interesting story about yourself and come across as human then you've got it made!
This works for both men and women. Sure looks do matter but they can only take you so far. Ace those typical questions for a first date and who knows? You might actually fall in love with yourself! ;-)
