Getting Over a Relationship - "Could You Let Go Of The Pain In Less Than 30 Days?"
"Getting over a relationship and it's painful!" I've been there and I think it's great news! ;-)
Great news because it's proof that you're human! We both know that ending a relationship is never easy and having done so takes courage and strength.
You see, when you're feeling pain from getting over a relationship it means that it meant something to you, even if it was a verbally abusive relationship.
From this moment onwards, let's start letting go emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. Please follow my advice: I guarantee that you will be getting over your past relationship in 30 days or less!
Getting Over a Relationship Emotionally...
Getting over a relationship emotionally is about accepting your situation.
The first thing you MUST do is acknowledge how you're feeling to yourself. It's okay to be depressed and hurt. It's NOT okay to deny it to yourself and let those feelings eat you from the inside.
/1 Pull out a new word doc (or a notebook) and write down how you're feeling right now. Just type (or write) away and let your feelings flow.
Let it out! It's okay to cry (guys too! Just do it in private;-)). Go over the pictures and the good times you had together. Just be sure to say "thank you" and "good bye" to all those memories and pictures as you go through them!
/2 Now, how about telling it to friends you trust? How about sharing it with those you know will support you emotionally?
I just got out of an emotionally intense relationship (at least on my end;-) ) and the first thing I did when it ended was tell my trusted friends about it. I felt better and they helped me pick the pieces up little by little.
You're in damage-control mode. Accept it and most importantly forgive yourself for any blame you are giving yourself. Be at peace with yourself about it.
/3 Get a notebook (or on the same word doc) and jot down the mistakes you believe you've made, and promise yourself that you'll never make those mistakes again.
Let it out! Do this for 5 minutes everyday for 30 days, and you will start feeling better right away!
Getting Over a Relationship Mentally...
I promise you, you will think about that person again. It's inevitable.
But that doesn't mean that you have let those thoughts linger inside you, making you feel all depressed again!
/1 Consciously work on getting her or him out of your head. Whatever you have that reminds you of that other person, say goodbye to it and store it away (or put it somewhere that's not easily accessible like at the back of your mental closet!)
/2 Get a rubber band. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about the other person, snap it and think of something else!
Not working? snap it again and again! Think about something else! Think about your next vacation and about how much fun you'll have!
I am currently doing this as well, and it works after ending a relationship.
Getting Over a Relationship Spiritually...
Take this moment in your life to re-evaluate yourself and your life direction. It's time to take care of you now.
It's time to re-define your ideal partner, life, and everything else! If you can, take a trip somewhere! Do something different! Remind yourself that life is still goin on and that it is plentiful.
Take the time to appreciate things in your life. Have an 'appreciate things' minute where you remember things you appreciate about your life and relationship for 60 seconds.
In fact, how about doing that right now? Don't worry I've got a minute to wait. ;-)
Done? Good! Have one every day, and you will feel hope once more.
Again, like I said it's about turning the hurting emotions to helping emotions.
Get good at doing that, and getting over a relationship will be opportunities rather then painful setbacks.
Getting Over a Relationship Physically...
Stay busy! Go to the gym! Do sports again! For me, in my latest emotional relationship breakup I did the BodyForLife challenge. I recommend doing something like that. Send yourself on a quest!
/1 sign up at a gym (or sport) for the next 30 days and you'll not only be able to exercise, but you'll also be able to meet new people.
Speaking of which, Go out again! Sure you'll look at women or men and will compare them to your ex, but that's okay. Your emotional wounds will heal with time. Just take action and be patient.
Warning! Worse Things You Can Do After Ending a Relationship!
#1 Not acknowledging your bitter feelings
Denial is the worst thing you can experience because those emotions of pain will come out one way or another. Either through violence or abusing a drug, which aren't as helpful as building your life up again and reviewing your goals.
#2 Taking it out on the other person
What I really recommend not doing is contacting the other person again! I strongly suggest deleting their contact info. Sure, in the future you can try to start something new but in the meantime:
Leave the other person alone. Understand that they are just as human as you, and are doing what they think is best for them.
#3 Blaming yourself too harshly
Sure, you might have made some mistakes but don't beat yourself over the head for them! I personal made loads of mistakes (including inviting my ex to things again and again, after we broke up!) and yeah I was angry at myself but I let the anger go and forgave myself. I recommend doing the same!
So again, when getting over a relationship, take the potentially destructive emotional energy and wield it to your advantage! Use the pain to rebuild yourself and come out stronger!
Even just doing onethe practical applications I mentioned will get you feeling better and letting go of your relationship in 30 days or less!
