Top Three Questions To ask Your Boyfriend And Stop The Worrying!
Worried about your relationship? Wondering what questions to ask your boyfriend and get rid of the anxiety?
My friend Kristie felt that way two years ago so she discovered something powerful. I was curious at the time so she shared it with me:
You see, typical "questions to ask a boyfriend" skip this and either annoy him or scare him away (not something either of you want, right? ;-)
As a guy I will share with you the top 3 questions to ask your boyfriend and get you resting easy again!
They are:
- "Who gave you that?"
- "What's your take on 'Roger'?"
- "What are we?"
Armed with these questions for your boyfriend you can shake off those uncomfortable feelings and know what's your real relationship status!
1# - Who Gave You That?
All those typical "questions to ask a boyfriend" you see in women's magazines are direct and risk compromising his ego (you don't want that because he'll defend it at all costs!)
Want to know if you're the only woman in his life currently? Ask him indirectly. When you notice things in his apartment (or that he's wearing) that strike you as a woman's gift, I recommend asking him:
"Who gave you that?" And wait for his answer. Don't just notice what he says, but rather how he says it.
Did he hold his breath? Did he stop and think? Is the uncomfortable feeling in your gut getting stronger?
If he did any of the above he either has or has had other women in his life that he's still fond of. If you're okay with that then that's fine.
Warning! When you're using these powerful questions to ask your boyfriend, I recommend being calm and casual (as if these are typical questions you would ask anyone.)
Stay away from coming across as judgmental, serious or ready to strike! He will defend himself and you'll get nowhere. :(
#2 - What's Your Take on 'Roger'?
Think he's hiding something? Now you can find out! These next questions for your boyfriend will uncover his secrets.
Remember you don't want to ask anything directly (always 'indirectly'.) ;-)
Ask him about his opinion of your friend 'Roger'. 'Roger' is a fictional character that you and your friends have been talking about.
He has the behavior that you think your boyfriend is hiding (you can pick another name if you want.)
For example if you suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you, ask him for his opinion on 'Roger'.
"Well, my friends know this guy 'Roger' who has been cheating on his girlfriend but she doesn't know. What's your take on Roger?"
And Then Just Wait...
I recommend non-chalantly asking him this during a typical conversation and watching his response;
- Is he getting defensive?
- Is he judging Roger?
- Is he just shrugging his shoulders?
Just notice this behavior and let your gut do the evaluating. Notice if he's asking you why you are asking him? It might mean that he's starting to feel nervous.
If your boyfriend starts asking 'why' then you can tell him that since he's a guy he has a better insight on 'Roger' than yourself. It will fly because you'll boost his ego.
Just make sure you tell your closest friends about 'Roger' in case he ever asks them about him!
#3 - What are We?
This question is one of the only typical questions to ask a boyfriend that I approve!
The problem women have when they ask it is when or how they're asking it.
Too many women ask it when they're in an argument and when emotions are all over the place!
On the other hand if you ask it randomly and nonchalantly during conversation, you'll get a better idea of your boyfriends' intentions and expectations.
Try to keep things simple. You see, us 'simple' guys don't like trouble. If you keep the dynamic calm and relaxed we'll be more willing to answer your questions.
It's when you start letting your emotions get the best of you that we start to shake our heads.
Note: If this happens to you then I recommend feeling calm and collected before asking those questions for your boyfriend.
So when you ask him this and unless he gives you a straight answer then he's hiding something.
Final Thoughts
warning:These questions for your boyfriend will reveal some unexpected things. If you're open and ready to face the situation you're in then use them!
If you'd rather not know then that's fine too. When it comes to relationships and what questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend it's all about awareness and choice.
